What to do if my brother is gay
IVYBETCH
Dartmouth College '18
I knew that Josh* was gay for four months before he told my parents.
Growing up, were were never that close. We were very different people that didn't have much in frequent. Despite our differences, we still cared a lot about each other, even if we didn't always have much to discuss about.
When my brother began shutting my parents out from his life in high school, the door closed on me, too. When Josh went to college, communicating with him became even more complex. We rarely spoke, which is why when he video chatted me one day in December, I could not have been more surprised.
Our conversation started out casually, but I could tell he was apprehensive about something. Finally he said, "I hold to tell you something. I'm gay."
After what felt like a year of silence I said, "That's great!" with the most sincere tone I could muster. I am not at all homophobic, but it never crossed my mind that Josh could be gay. I was in shock.
I needed day to process what I had just learned. He hooked up with girls in high school. He never really
His brother is gay; what are his responsibilities towards him?
Firstly:
Homosexuality, whether it is among men or women, is one of the most abhorrent of immoral and evil actions that a person may commit, and is one of the most shameful deeds in this world and in the hereafter. Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said concerning the one who commits this act that he has committed so fantastic an evil that there is no hope that he will ever be reformed after that; it takes away all his good deeds and removes all modesty and shyness, because after that he will not feel timid before Allah or before His creation.
Indeed, Allah, may He be exalted, destroyed an entire town along with its people, namely the town of the people of Loot, because of this immoral action. See the answers to questions no. , and
What you must do for your brother is tell him of the shame in this world and in the Hereafter that results from this evil, that it will ruin his spiritual and worldly interests, and that he will turn into insignificant to Allah and to other people if he persists in it. War
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Caleb Kaltenbach (M.A. ’07) is an alumnus of Biola’s Talbot School of Theology, lead pastor of a large church in Simi Valley, Calif., and a married father of two. He’s also an emerging voice in the discussion of how Christians should engage the LGBT community. That’s because Kaltenbach has an insider perspective, having been raised by a dad and mom who divorced and independently came out of the closet as a gay dude and a queer woman . Raised in the midst of LGBT parties and identity festival parades, Kaltenbach became a Christian and a pastor as a young grown-up. Today, he manages the tension of holding to the traditional biblical instruction on sexuality while loving his lgbtq+ parents.
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